This skill – yes, it is a skill to learn actually – I discovered since the beginning of my Leadership program more than 8 months ago. And apparently I totally forgot to do it… So when the life brought some situations where I could really practice it, I didn’t even think about skill, as I didn’t trained that “muscle”, responsible for this.

Yesterday with some of colleagues of mine we discussed this topic on a bit deeper level. I realised that I usually didn’t ask for help, because I was afraid of being rejected. And apparently it is not just because I was afraid to receive that “No”, the bigger reason underneath that fear was the unconscious judging myself of not being strong and needing this help.

Somehow I have learnt that asking for help is a weakness, it is something not to be proud about, it is wrong… And that was probably my fundamental limiting belief that I could/should/need do it all by myself…

And here is what Brene Brown says about that: “When you judge yourself for needing help, you judge those you are helping. When you attach value to giving help, you attach value to needing help. The danger of tying your self-worth to being a helper is feeling shame when you have to ask for help. Offering help is courageous and compassionate, but so is asking for help.”

So what I am learning is that asking for help is a courageous and compassionate act, that of course, makes you much more vulnerable and at the same time more open for other people, it invites other people to be vulnerable and asking for help as well. How beautiful it actually could turn around!

My another take away is the following: if I need help, and I didn’t receive it because I didn’t even ask for that, how I will I be able to help and serve others?

And I am curious how often you ask for help? Is it something you do every day or just never in your life?