Time to remember who we are

For the last session of Positive Intelligence course me and other coaches were asked to bring a childhood photo of ourselves in the age up to 13 years old. I found one, but during the visualization I have totally different image that popped up in my mind. And after the session was over, I asked my parents to send me the “original”.

Yes, exactly that photo reflects my true essence: this joyful, funny, energetic, loving and caring girl that I was born to be, who I always have been, and who I will always be. This is my true unique self that is worthy of all the unconditional love, compassion and empathy just because. I do not need to prove it, to earn that, justify it, or perform it. And no one could take it from me.

It also reminded me how often in my life I forgot Her, neglected her beautiful essence, judged and even beat that joyful, funny and enlightened creature.

The good news is that we ALL have this beautiful “child” inside of us. He or She never went away. And probably especially these days this inner child is thriving for our attention even more than ever.

And even if you are not able to experience this beautiful visualization, you could use the following tools to bring more empathy to Yourself and even to the others around you:

1.    During our lives we have learnt that we need to be hard on ourselves in order to succeed or to be happy. And this is a big lie, because if we first start with empathy towards ourselves, it will lead us to far greater self-improvement. In order to experience this, you could take your childhood photo and look at this picture as often as you can. Notice how that beautiful being is worth of all the unconditional love in the world. While each time you will be looking at this picture feel the love and compassion that you deserve. Try not to focus on any imperfections or sadness, rather really try to see the true unique essence in this kid, in YOU.

2.    And also by visualizing other people’ inner child or their 5 year old version in them helps me to feel more positively towards the people, especially if you find yourslef in conflict situations, or arguing about something and feeling frustrated. So if you have people in your network that you constantly judge or feeling irritated, try to visualize the child within them, their 4-5 year old version. Visualize how they might have looked: their wide eyes, soft hair, free laughter, their innocence. If you manage to look deeply enough, you will sense their sensitivity and vulnerability that they had as a child. Because it is still there, except a little more is hidden.

While using these two tools, please notice the impact that it will have on yourself and on others after doing it for couple of days.

It is time to remember who we really are and re-connect!